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It’s Just Not Fair!!!

May 9, 2013
Over came fear

Celebrating ONE YEAR Cancer Free! A long hike to the top of Half Dome, Yosemite National Park

Make careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Do not compare yourself to others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the best you can with your own life.
Galatians 6: 4-5 ( The message)

Sometimes things just seemed so unfair!! My friends could eat a big cheeseburgers, fries, heaping plates of nachos and fancy desserts all the time and somehow stay slim and trim. I could look at a candy bar, just smell some pizza, or simply  bake a cake and gain weight?!?!? Who could understand it all?  It all seemed overwhelming, complicated and mostly so UNFAIR!! It  made me so MAD!  It made me want to give up, TO QUIT!   This is, I believe  why all my life I have yo-yo’d between 210-260. I got caught up it comparing my self to others. One day I could hear myself say ” It’s just not fair” on another day I would hear myself say “at least I’m not…” Both very dangerous things:: Envy or Pride. Instead of giving up, or settling for less than your best when these things occurred I needed to take my eyes off others and focus ONLY on what the Lord has given me to take care of:: MYSELF! You see, I believe that comparison is the work of the deceiver keeping us from reaching our full potential. Just when I was about to reach a goal of under 200 pounds it would all become way too hard for me & oh so very unfair. I would quickly end up feeling defeated and Quit! I beg you, if this sounds like you,  you need to stop this!! Don’t let the deceiver win. Early on in my time at the ranch I learned I needed to take care of myself. I only needed to watch what I was eating, how much I was working out, how much I was or was not losing. If I would just always do my best and focus on Him, I never needed to wonder or worry if it was enough. If I gave my all, 100 percent I had to trust it was good enough. So I stopped comparing myself to others and focus ONLY on what I needed to do and it happened….I met and exceeded every goal I had set.   We all need to deal with our insecurities and stop comparing ourselves to those around us. We need to learn to stay true to the course God has set before each one of  us….Trust the process. We need to learn to just  trust God. I know how simple that sounds yet it is so very difficult to actually do. I believe with all my heart the Lord is in total control. I also believe God plans to use each and every one of us in mighty ways!! His dreams are much bigger than our own (probably why I exceeded everyone of my goals)!!  God wants you to be in the best shape possible to accomplish all His  plans! God is NOT comparing you to others and you shouldn’t either.

Top Half Dome

OverComing Fear halfDome

Lord, I start by asking you to forgive me for my jealousies and insecurities. Keep my eyes focused on you and not on others. Help me not to worry about what others look like, have, or do. Help me to not compare myself to them but to place my trust in you. Thank you for valuing me. Please give me the strength I need to become all you have dreamed up, all you desire me to be. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

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  • Natalie Malec May 10, 2013 at 12:05 am

    Oh mylanta!!! This has literally been the voice in my head and source if my defeat for some time now!! I exercise and try to eat right. I do exactly what you said, gain weight just looking at a candy bar while my co workers don’t exercise and eat sweets like nobody’s business and stay rail thin. IT MAKES ME SO MAD!!!! It’s do discouraging and makes it so hard to stay the course and trust the process. Thank you for this post!!! Thank you for sharing your faith. And thank you for sharing recipes. We tried the crockpot chicken and it was wonderful!!! You’re an awesome example and inspiration!!! Thank you!!

  • Jamie Young May 10, 2013 at 12:09 am

    Thank you for this reminder. It was just what I needed to hear today.

  • Sarah Tanner May 10, 2013 at 1:17 am

    Thank you so much! This speaks to me in so many ways. Food and exercise obviously, however I fight an autoimmune and two neurological disorders that ‘just aren’t fair’. I can’t do much that requires physical or emotional exertion, I must be careful to not get too warm or too cold. “Its not fair”, I ignore my bodies limitations and I experience pain, extreme exhaustion or severe non epileptic seizures. I can either whine and sit around for the rest of my life, miserable OR I can accept who God has made me accept He has a reason I may or may not understand. I choose to move beyond fairness and face life and my challenges head on. Enjoy every minute thankful that “It’s not fair” God Bless. Lisa. Thank you!

  • Joy May 10, 2013 at 1:54 am

    Excellent, excellent post! Comparison is the way the deceiver gets into my head, for sure! Thank you SO much for sharing!

  • kris canning May 10, 2013 at 5:05 am

    Thanks so much! I needed this message right at this time. I have been struggling these past few weeks. I have some personal things going on right now and I have resorted right back to my old habits of emotional eating to make myself feel better but of course I only end up feeling worse. Thank you for being so honest in your posts and for being such an inspiration to me with your weight loss journey but also with your faith!

  • Pam May 10, 2013 at 6:52 am

    Wow, this rings so true with me. After battling the same 30 lbs (between 200-230) for the last 10ish years, I hit 199 on this past Wednesday. I broke through to Onederland! I plan on never looking back. Watching you on BL, following you on fb and your blogs has been sooo inspiring. Being a mom and “doing it all”. YES, we can! YES, we will! This was a great read this morning. This is also my first day wearing a Body Media band and I am so excited to see what I will learn on the next step of my journey!

    Thank you! :)

  • Deb May 10, 2013 at 7:58 am

    Thank you Lisa. Now I need to take what I have read, and how I feel, and do something about it. I am the queen of excuses and comparisons.

  • Sheri Zimmermann May 10, 2013 at 9:35 am

    For the last three days, I have been reading Ephesians 6 – and praying the armor of God over myself before I begin my day. Bodymedia on, trying a new fitness class daily, tracking my calories and trusting HIM to be my strength as I quit the emotional eating….food is not my comfort. Only Christ can take away my anxiety and stress. Thank you for being his VOICE ….

  • Hailey May 10, 2013 at 10:12 am

    THANK YOU for this post! So true & just what I needed today! I really wanted to eat that spaghetti & ice cream last night but it would have put me over my calorie budget. Not to mention the countless times these thoughts pop into my head about all other things. With God all of my dreams are possible. Weight loss, success & everything good that God has placed in my heart really is what HE wants for me. Thanks for the reminder!!

  • Barb Smith May 10, 2013 at 10:43 pm

    Thank you for ur encouragement…life has been tough lately.May God continues to touch and use u

  • Sally B May 12, 2013 at 11:21 am

    Appreciate this post. Comparison, envy, pride! Easy traps to fall into. I need to keep my eyes focused on who God made me and ask Him daily to keep my eyes and heart focused on Him. Thanks for your wonderful words of encouragement

  • Linda S May 15, 2013 at 9:50 am

    Hi Lisa,
    Thank you for this. I have been on a journey since Sept 2012 and thus far has loss 60 pounds. I started at 307.8 lbs. How quickly like you said I could find myself comparing. He is our all in all things and was so thrilled that your Faith is Shining Bright!!! My go to Bible verse is Psalm 73:26 My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my PORTION forever!!!!!

    As a busy wife and Mom I don’t get to check in on your blog very often. But I was just thinking I should contact you to see if you had an suggestions for great meals for a family of 7 (4 being teenagers) on a budget. If you have any feel free to contact me at my above e-mail.

    Continue Shining for God! I know he will Bless you above everything!!!!

    Take Care, Linda

  • Cynthia May 21, 2013 at 10:01 am

    Thank you- so well said. You are so right, it sounds so simple, but it’s not so easy. I’ve been believing I trusted God, but a careful, honest look at how I live my life makes it clear that often I definitely am not.

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